On Anger

I think there’s a big difference between ‘feeling anger’ and ‘being angry’. If we feel anger, it’s probably putting us in a bad mood and making our day worse. But when we are BEING angry, it is dominating our thoughts and feelings, ruining our day, and making it hard to think about anything else. Feeling anger is unpleasant. Being angry is overwhelming. Feeling anger is probably unavoidable. We are all human, although having a better understanding of our feelings is certainly helpful in dealing with our anger. Being angry is the real problem. When we are overwhelmed by our anger it makes us unhappy and leads to nothing but bad decisions. This is what we need to learn to avoid, and it is possible if we just practice mindfulness of our thoughts and feelings.

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About Daniel Scharpenburg

Daniel Scharpenburg lives in Kansas City with two kids and two cats. He runs the Monday Night Zen Group at the Rime Buddhist Center. Daniel has a BA in English from KU and he works for the federal government. Once a Novice Monk in the Rinzai Tradition, he dropped out of monk school to become a regular person. He has taken his inspiration mainly from Zen renegades and madmen like Ikkyu and Han Shan. Daniel has taken Bodhisattva Vows in both the Nagarjuna and Asanga lineages. He is a frequent guest teacher on Daily Dharma Gathering.

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